Cant remember what it was, maybe its something I still wear and have just gotten used to it. Continuous sinus nose pressure after 2nd child? I literally had to blow my nose all through my second pregnancy. You see the salesmen on the metro who wear little vials of oil on these cross-body belts. I hadnt thought about what a can of worms that would be! I put this at the top of the post but am adding it here too: There have been loads of suggestions above for additional ways the letter-writer could tackle potential scents and stamp them out. Your box of tissues has become your closest companion (and admit it your sleeve has been called in to pinch hit on a couple of terrible occasions). It sucked. Now its up to the co-worker to prove its not a case of singling her out. That said, though, the perfume I was wearing the day she complained didnt actually have any patchouli in it, and I wear my patchouli-scented oils very sparingly. should I be so emotionally drained by managing? Im saying this as someone with almost no sense of smell, so my word is worth nothing, but I really really bet thats whats going on. They say scent is our strongest memory, meaning that some smells immediately transport us to a specific person or place in time. Move there. My sister had a theory that putting patchouli on the soles of her feet somehow cleansed the impurities out of her system. I would love to see someone tell all my coworkers who smoke that they have to quit because Purple Jello has an allergy.). First it was people smacking gum, then chewing crunchy foods with their mouth open, and now its almost any audible chewing sounds at all. Has your boyfriend gone to an ENT? Every time this happens I go through a spate of cleaning everything and thinking I smell pee ALL THE TIME. Its one thing to ask a coworker to stop wearing a strongly smelling perfume, its another to suggest that people need to switch out ALL of their personal care products to accommodate a coworker! On me, personally, alcohol-based eau de parfume scents last way longer and have a lot more throw than my oils do. In New Orleans, Atlanta, and D.C., Ive seen Black women steadily outnumber white women when it comes to indie oils. Which is to say that I think it might be more widespread than folks realize. Patchouli has actually been a key scent note for Dior for decades :-). I dont know what shes smelling, but Ive done everything I can reasonably do to accommodate her needs. Someone I was around complained about my patchouli smell. Id also be grumpy if I couldnt use scented products to make myself smell nice on Friday nights and weekends, for fear of bringing traces of the smell into work the next day. Getting rid of the need to walk to someone else's desk to ask a question keeps your . My heart rate goes up, my brain scatters, I get queasy and headache-y, etc. Yeah . Is it possible that the oil-based scents are lingering in something that doesnt get laundered very oftenmaybe a coat or even shoes? Coworker is being bratty and mean in a way that suggests she feels helpless (so, bullying but thinks she is the victim), and your suggestions were right on target for that aspect of the situation. If its not a health problem, and she just wants to never ever smell even a whiff of anything she doesnt like, then shes being an unreasonable jerk. If they were prevented from being able to smell, many many of them had reactions to the smell when they thought it was there and it wasnt and did not react when it was there but they didnt know. I think at this point and said above in more detail that its now time to do a the Voice type test to find out if the smell is part of the office, or settled in the mind of the coworker to the point that they smell it if its not there. If you feel as though you're about to burp, get up from your desk and walk to the washroom or even an empty part of the office. Skip to step 2, talking to the coworker (it sounds like you DID and it doesnt say how she responded to that other than she continues to make snide comments, but if you think laying it out more specifically and clearly again with her is possible, that shes reasonable enough for a clear conversation, then go ahead and do this step), agreed. Im not giving these things as excuses or to say its more important than somebodys life, just giving more variables as to why guaranteeing a scent-free environment is pretty much impossible past a certain point. The most I would do, though, is remove my own self from the area. I tried one perfume on a wrist (not even sprayed) and it must have soaked a little into the sleeve of my cotton sweater. Often I come across as rude, and I sincerely dont mean it. Is it possible the smell is in your sheets or towels? Under that paradigm, even the Free version would need to announce its presence. Yeah, she sounds like a jerk who wants things her way all the time. Now I can only drink red. I am all about being considerate to the people around you, but Im having a hard time with this one too, because I agree that no one should be expected to change their home/weekend habits and change up all their products to accommodate a coworker. This exactly. When everything is researched and it ends up being something other than you, shell have to quit harassing you. Exactly my thought. Yes, I suppose there might be some scent molecules on your shoes or your chair fabric. .true story, I made my partner change laundry detergents after wed been together a few months. Im a smoker, and I have been for several decades now. Say this to your boss: Ever since Jane mentioned a month ago that a perfume I was wearing bothered her, Ive made a big effort to ensure Im not wearing anything scented around her. Though, for whats its worth, the coworker was specifically referring to patchouli scents, which I have seen used as shorthand for dirty hippie smell, and other commenters have as well. Re: Constant phlegm / snorting problem - please help. The point is, it is perfectly reasonable to ask coworkers to make modest changes to help with allergies or even plain discomfort, but at a certain point, the burden shifts to the coworker if theres still a problem. I want to clarify that my But I agree that patchouli is one.of.those.smells. line meant that most will either love it or hate it as evidenced by our two opinions here. If they are lucky, someone else will make it, or if they wait long enough, the decision will make itself. I have been very confused about the comments. The air is fine. right now, but Ive had this schedule for about 10 years now, so my hair is used to it, and I have a whole network of people I trust to tell me if its time to wash again. Not to sound unkind, but Im not double-washing my entire wardrobe in vinegar and different detergent, throwing out candles, etc. Im not allergic, but it just has such a terrible chemical smell that just lingers forever if my coworker wanted to get rid of me, spraying my stuff with Febreeze would do it! everyone think it is and I try to stop but its every minuet I sniff. I posted this under Rhinitis because it's the closest thing I've found so far. AlsoI used (briefly, because I am sensitive to Aluminium) a non-scented deodorant (Toms I think) and after 5 daysit had a smell and that smell was on me. *grin*. The worst, though, is that my hair picks up smells like no ones business and will smell like cig smoke even if I just walk past a group of people smoking. OP has done a lot already and coworker is just being snarky. The next time she asks for help that you haven't been assigned to provide her, make the conversation about you following your boss's direction. I do have a sweater that lives at the office, and I took it home and washed it after she complained. Telling someone they have to drastically alter their *non work life* to accommodate someone that doesnt like a smellhell, even someone with allergies or migrainesisnt cool. Thermostat Wars conveys what Im trying to say so much better than I could!! It seems like you are already doing everything it is reasonable to ask a person to do (and possibly more). Your coworkers shoot you irritated looks as you clear your throat (again). He probably has a sick crush on you. I happen to like scents like patchouli, but it is a strong scent, so perhaps its lingering someplace. Sometimes I notice smells will stick around for a few days, even after I have showered. Thats a good idea! I never smelled when she needed a ride anywhere or we werent in the office. I once used a mix of hydrogen peroxide, baking soda and my favorite detergent to remove cat pee from a mattress. Although if someone (politely) asked me to use a different detergent because it was making them ill, I probably would. However, the color protecting haircare products I use have a smell, and Id be salty about discontinuing them because my color would fade a lot faster without them. They had everyone take their shoes off and the participation of women increased dramatically. Would you mind linking to some of that research? Do you have a sweater or jacket that you wear on a regular basis that you keep in your office? I think the OP has already gone above and beyond, but it wouldnt be a bad idea to dot the remaining is and cross the remaining ts (air fresheners at home, in public restrooms, or in the car, dryer sheets, etc. I like the idea to get a blunt friend to do the sniff test, but basically I think the ideas about limiting physical contact are the best way to go at this point; Im a little afraid of sending the OP down a rabbit hole of onerous scent minimization that may not solve the problem. If you have a colleague who burps or sniffs excessively, the easiest approach is to tell her you find it offensive or unsanitary and, in the case of loud burping, do not consider it humorous. If it is bullying, then standing up for your right not to be verbally abused may help. I thought the dust may be the cause, but I sniff even when I'm back during the summer in Europe playing golf with no dust around. When they are attracted to you, in a romantic and sincere way, you sense that you are wanted, needed, and special. Never blows his nose, or uses a tissue Its very distracting, and personally I find it disgusting. Had this and it turns out. I totally agree I know the OP is trying to do her best, and is frustrated about where this could be coming from. I think Alison has asked us not to read race into letters because it can become derailing and its all speculation. Honestly, next time she snarks about patchouli, Id literally laugh in her face, like Seriously? Is it really noticeable? You can find these variations, among others: a quick touch of an index finger to the nose. Of not, then she can be moved to a less bothersome location. Out of curiosity, does the sound of a nose being blown bother anyone here? I also tend to use unscented deodorant and laundry detergent; I really dislike how chemical-y scented products like this tend to be. I find it best to be open with people about misphonia, most people dont understand and say "just ignore it" but I just shrug and say "I cant, its called misphonia, look it up, its a real thing". I know the LW said she does not enjoy chemical-y scents, but are there any other scents that the LW enjoys that wouldnt bother the coworker? Yes, most modern products are quite the cocktail, so while the scented molecules may be the most noticeable they may not be whats actually eliciting the sensitivity. provided by the hotel. I have to use unscented shampoo due to a skin allergy. They offered her a new seat not situated in the middle of the office. Weve worked together on this project for about six months, and been in the same office for about three years? Been out of college over 10 years and still cant drink it at all. nothing seems to help, except taking a 1/2 of a 5 mg flexeral at bedtime,It calms the constant sniffiling and I can sleep. 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